http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/topic/2143/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html en-us Copyright 2006, Kickapps feeds@kickapps.com (FeedMaster) webmaster@kickapps.com (WebMaster) Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:16:01 GMT Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:57:50 GMT Kickapps Feeds 1.0 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 {pics-1.1 "http://www.icra.org/ratingsv02.html" l gen true for "http://kickapps.com" r (nz 1 vz 1 lz 1 oz 1 cz 1 ) "http://www.rsac.org/ratingsv01.html" l gen true for "http://kickapps.com" r (n 0 s 0 v 0 l 0 )) Search Domain q http://kickapps.com/search/direct/ http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7561/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7561
I grew up flying with a dad who's a completely calm flier. Turbulence was a "what? this?!" thing for him. I was fine until about 25 yrs old.

We're about to have a child (Nov 26 due date) and I can't wait to get him up in the air with me. He has to meet his last great-grandparent (my grandfather in Phoenix) before it's too late.

There are things you can do to help your kids cope, but, in the end, your fear, or lack thereof, isn't the source of theirs.

Enjoy the flights. You'll be just fine. ]]> feeds@kickapps.com (OneAnt) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7561 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:57:50 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7559/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7559 feeds@kickapps.com (JSWigan) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7559 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:34:18 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7558/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7558
Many people have -- somehow -- gotten the idea that it's no longer possible to meet the crew since 9/11. That's never been the case. True, many new security measures have been put into place, ranging from the obviously sensible (reinforced, virtually impenetrable cockpit doors) to the downright silly (restrictions on liquids in carry-on bags, for one -- and frankly, the rest of the world seems to get along just fine without shoe removal).

But meeting the Captain can go a long way to alleviate concerns about the flight. That will demonstrate that the Captain -- and F/O for that matter -- are normal humans and not suicidal. They want to get to their destination at least as much as you do. (Perhaps more so, if it's their crew base and... ]]> feeds@kickapps.com (Capn Steve) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7558 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:52:07 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7556/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7556 feeds@kickapps.com (Capt Tom Bunn MSW LCSW) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7556 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:48:33 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7554/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7554 feeds@kickapps.com (JSWigan) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7554 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 10:16:23 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/reply/7553/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html#reply-7553
When kids are afraid of something, it is usually an object that can stand away from and look at. They don't want to get closer.

But a plane is different. It is something the child is inside. That is very different. They don't usually have trouble with being inside something with that much space. So if they see a parent exhibit fear, it won't compute because they don't see a threatening object.

To be afraid of flying, a child would have to do a bit of abstract thinking, that of seeing a plane crash on television and imagine being inside it, and then transfer that to their own flight. That could cause fear, but notice how different that is from being inside a plane and seeing a parent exhibit fear.

It seems to me that it would be fine to start leveling with kids that there are always things that you - and they - need to do which you - and they - don't feel like doing. Examples, getting a vaccination or doing homework.... ]]> feeds@kickapps.com (Capt Tom Bunn MSW LCSW) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7553 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 10:03:51 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/topic/2143/t/Don-t-want-to-scare-my-kids-.html feeds@kickapps.com (JSWigan) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/topic/2143 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:16:01 PST