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When we don't get enough built-in ability to regulate feelings, and don't feel secure enough, we turn to control of things for security and to control anlxiety about uncertainty. And, we become - I think rightfully - proud of our ability to control things. But there are limits to what we can control. I remember a very macho NY City undercover cop who felt in control on the street but freaked when flying because he wasn't in control. So it happens. But the fix is to link the challenges to a moment of empathic connection. That takes care of the panic that comes from feeling totally alone without enough... ]]> feeds@kickapps.com (Capt Tom Bunn MSW LCSW) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/sreply/7617 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:29:47 PST http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/topic/2167/t/Frustrated-but-hopeful.html
Ironically enough the flight from Nashville to Austin was totally smooth and had virtually no turbulence. What got me was once we got to cruise at 40,000 feet, well above a layer of clouds, I started getting the feelings of "oh crap, I'm suspended in air, 40,000 feet high and I can't get out of here and I'm not feeling safe!" I tried watching a movie on my laptop, tried doing a word search …... ]]> feeds@kickapps.com (Portastorm) http://fearofflyingmessageboard.com/topic/2167 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 08:31:04 PST