I used to fly everywhere always a tad nervous with some bumps and take off but would be excited to get to my destination. Since my daughter I get extreme
anxiety. I flew with her when she was 6 months to France to see family now we are going again tomorrow night and she is 18 months and I am pregnant 21 weeks. I
have such anxiety this time. I hate turbulence and get to a point where I start panicing and saying I can't do this and need to stand up and all I want is
to not be on the plane. I have always done ok but this time I am not feeling so great for a 7 hour flight. NY JFK to Paris. Anyone got any tips for me???
Appreciate it soooo much!
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Flying tomorrow to Paris with my daughter - 18 months
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Posts: 1 (09/26/08 07:02:19) |
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Posts: 2405 (09/26/08 08:19:59) |
First, it may help to know that brain scan research has taught us that in the later stages of pregnancy, hormones are released into the brain that cause the
expectant mother to be OBSESSED with safety. Nothing that even remotely looks like a risk is acceptable.
This, of course, is protective of the newborn and serves to get things ready for the newborn. The hormones go away after a time, but the patterns of worry set up during pregnancy tend to remain carved in stone. So you have that, plus - with the second pregnancy - a new set of obsession-causing hormones. What can you do? First, recognize that you are safer when on the plane than when doing your usual daily routine. How do we know this? Research shows that taking a flight is equal to driving 10.8 miles (interstate) or 5.4 miles (urban/suburban). Since most of us drive that much every day, plus more, flying is safer than your daily routine. If you fly, you get away from the routine. Next, consider how many times you do drive that much. And guess what! Nothing happens. That is how safe flying is. OK, so this is intellectual, but you do need a solid intellectual foundation to go to the next step, which is to control the feelings. And, nothing short of automatic control will do the job. You can learn - and set up - automatic control with the SOAR accelerated courses at http://www.fearofflying.com/relief/ If you have a question, just call me at 877 332-7359. |
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Posts: 63 (09/26/08 13:50:07) |
hi nina,
i am flying to paris from jfk next thursday and i am nervous too! you can post your flight info and i will track your flight. sometimes it helps to know someone is thinking of you on your flight 
happy travels, paris is so wonderful and you will have a lovely flight
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Note from Capt. Tom I know everyone worries about weather, but pilots really do not worry about it. We simply - instead of worrying about it - completely prepare for it. Before going to the plane, we review the weather at the destination. If it is not 100% sure to be within legal limits when we arrive at the destination, we must specify an alternate airport in our planning documents, and load on plenty of fuel for going to the destination airport, and then if need be, diverting to the alternate airport. The legal limits are conservative. Even when weather is slightly outside the legal limits, any airline pilot could still land safely. You can rely on the captain never to land when the weather is not legal, and legality limits are reached prior to safety limits. If you are still anxious, call me and we can talk it over. I'm at 877 332-7359 from 10 AM until 7 PM Eastern time. For effective help, even if you are flying in a day or two, sign up now at www.fearofflying.com/fasttrack and call me when you finish Clip 9 so I can make sure you are all set. |
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Using Weather Information If you enter your ZIP Code or City at the top of the weather presentation, it will give you weather for your area. Or, you can enter your destination ZIP Code or City.
Click on the "LOCAL RADAR" button to see whether or not there are thunder- Turbulence, though it may cause anxiety, does not mean anything is wrong. Turbulence does not mean danger. The plane can handle far more turbulence than Mother Nature can dish out. Though flying in turbulence is safe, it doesn't feel safe. And here is where the SOAR programs come in. We can help you feel as safe when you fly as you actually are. You can see these programs at www.fearofflying.com/store. |
